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Going out in public

For many of us the need to go out in public is what we strive to do. Many cross dressers (transgender) do venture out and enjoy a good social life with their friends, whether they are also transgendered or not. For many others this option simply isn’t available because of family circumstances, work commitments, the ability to look plausible whilst dressed or other reasons. Many people do want to ‘pass’ whilst out dressed and this is their aim. To be honest being able to 'pass' is not really possible but being able to blend in with others around you is. In this section I’ll look at all the different areas of dressing as a woman, offering advice along the way, which I hope will be benefit one and all in some way.

Hair and Wigs:

 This is the most important part of any makeover and one which will either make or break anyone's image. There is plenty of information on this web site which will assist you further in all aspects of wigs, from buying the right style to cutting and styling and wig care. Many people want to use their own hair for that added ‘passability factor’ and for most this doesn't really work. Women tend to have thicker hair compared to men and unless your hair is of the suitable thickness and length to convincingly style into a feminine hair style, then don't rush to use it. Tying your hair back or trying to 'feminise' a comb over will not work. Remain wearing a wig to help maintain your image until your own hair reaches the point at which it can be effectively used. There are many women who wear wigs on a daily dasis for fashion or necesssity reasons so this is perfectly ok for you also.

Make up:

There is detailed information on this on the web site which will assist you further here also, from foundations to applying eyeshadows, lipsticks for a suitable day look.

Deportment/Conduct:

This is the way you walk, talk, sit and generally carry yourself when in public, as men and women act differently in the same situations. This is the most difficult area to get right and no matter how good you look, if you act ‘like a bloke’ you will lose all the credibility whilst dressed in the eyes of the people you meet. There is no easy way of doing this and it does take many years to get right, until you reach a point when you act as a women without really thinking about it. Watch how women sit on trains and in cafes and see what they do with their arms and how they cross their legs. Women generally walk slower compared to men, get in and out of cars differently and tend to take more time over things. Copying someone else's deportment is a good way of getting this right.

Tranny Friendly Places:

To be honest in today's modern world most people are used to trans clients in museums, bars or restaurants so there is no need to check or mention this in advance of arriving. If you look presentable and act like a woman then there should be no issues.

The Voice:

The biggest issue we all face is our voices. Some of us simply can't talk with any degree of getting close to a emulating a woman's voice and there is nothing worse than spending time getting ready to go out, looking as good as you can and then sounding like 'Louis Armstrong'! However, using these simple tricks might just help you.

Try talking a little slower and speaking more clearly and in a quieter voice. After all, you are talking to the person next to you and therefore don't need to be heard by others around you, especially in a restaurant or sitting on a train. Secondly (a little easier said than done) try pitching up to an octave higher with your voice raising its tone slightly. This will lift your voice out of the bass ranges of tone towards the lower tones of the female voice, as some women do tend to have gruffer, more gravelly voices especially in middle to later age. Be careful here not to sound overly effeminate as this will give totally the wrong impression and make you sound silly!

Overall Image:

Many men are obviously bigger in stature than women, although some of the luckier ones are slight, shorter and generally more proportionate to women's sizes.This means that for many of us we take a size 20 or larger in women's clothing, as these are the sizes which best fit our larger body shapes. For those of us who are bigger and taller, is there anything that we can do to help our overall image? As the average UK woman takes a size 16, we need to think about how we can improve our image by wearing clothes in this size. This is obviously to lose weight.

I'm not saying that we should take up sport and start jogging because for many of us this isn't an option, but simply being more active in our lifestyle, walking more rather than driving, using the stairs instead of the lift, that sort of thing. Also with this comes calorie intake and we should also cut out some of those added calories which we could do without (cakes, pastries, pies, takeaway's, pizza beer etc..). These are called lifestyle changes and in a short time you will improve your health and lose weight, meaning that you will need to buy clothes in the next size(s) down. This will give you a better overall image and improve your look as a woman, give a thinner looking face, narrower waste and less broad shouldered, increasing your overall passability factor.

Clothing/Shoes:

With shoes, the heel size is very important, and for those 'taller girls' you need to think about this more, especially for casual day wear. There is nothing worse than someone who is 6ft+ wearing four inch (or higher) heels and walking down the road towering above all other pedestrians! This will instantly give the game away and you may well draw some unwanted attention and unfavourable comments. Do what you can to lower your height by wearing lower heels or flat shoes. Many women do, especially in the high street shopping, as they are so much more comfortable, practical and easier to wear. With clothing, wear what is appropriate for where you are going and as many women wear fashionable, tailored trousers whilst out shopping, this means it's Ok for you to do the same.

If you are completely unsure of what to buy then look in the catalogue shops on line to get some ideas. Buying seperate tops and bottoms is good as these could be interchanged. Any coloured top or bottom (skirt or trousers) can go with any black skirt/trouser. If you have three tops and three bottoms then you have nine outfits which you can enhance with accessories.

Charity Shops:

If you are new to cross dressing and haven't a clue what to buy or have very little budget to spend on clothes, then look to the charity shops. They are numerous in all high streets and the staff are well usd to men bung women's clothing, so don't be afraid to go in.

Using Public Toilets:

Like all people we all get 'caught short' when we are out and about and need to use a toilet. Being transgendered, this can pose some issues in certain places, but if you are dressed as a woman and look presentable, then you have every right to use the female toilets, providing you observe a few points of etiquette.

Firstly, don't go in there in a group. Remember gender females of all ages use them and going in 'en mass' is a sure way of creating an unwanted and wholly avoidable scene. Secondly, always sit down to pee. It's not only easier but the sounds woman make peeing are different from that of a man using the same toilet and standing up. Finally always leave the toilet as you find it with the seat down and remove any residue from the front of the seat if need be. The object of visiting a toilet is to do one's business and leave without drawing any unwanted attention and observing these principals should ensure that you have any issues.

Verbal Abuse:

In all works of life people are open to some degree of verbal abuse, simply for being themselves. This is because they are obese, a dwarf, overly tall, have coloured skin or dress according to their beliefs or religion. We are all different and have as much right and freedom in England to go and do as we please according to the laws of the land. There are some people in our society who do make unwanted verbal comments and people, which is quite unnecessary. Transgender people in many cases do leave themselves open for verbal abuse because of the way we look or dress.

If for any reason you are on the receiving end of any verbal abuse then ignore it and walk on by without looking round or acknowledging the abuse in any form. This will be safer for you as the last thing you want is to provoke the situation further by saying to them "Why did you say that?" Always stay safe and walk away from any possible unpleasantness as quickly as you can.

Finally:

I hope that the information here will be helpful to you either in whole or in part and that you get more from being out dressed as a woman in the real world. Whatever you do and wherever you go, be sure to have a good time and enjoy yourself, but above all be safe and don't do anything or go anywhere that may put you or those with you in harm's way.